I am convinced that not so much love would be lost if we first loved ourselves first and knew the cost of love before attempting it on another being. No being that loves themselves will harm , injure , deny , abuse or put selves at risk etc, this comes as a realization that if I love myself I will fight for all the self preservation I can attain.
We cannot be free to destroy ourselves, we cannot be free to refuse to obey, we cannot be free to rebel against norms, and it cannot be called freedom. Yet we cannot be free to abuse our liberties, opportunities, chances, blessings and priviledges. When we become so free that our liberties master us then we are worse than slaves.
So the next time you whisper a secret, the next time you speak a word that you cannot utter publicly, know that you are creating a weak link for yourself. A link that will eventually come to clink and give away your public mask for your wiki-leak mask. It is noble for a man to whisper what he is prepared to shout from the roof top failing which , it is even nobler for a man to keep his silence which the old sage swears is golden.