I saw a horrific accident today. Someone overtook on a bend and drove into an innocent oncoming person who had just knocked off and was rushing home to join his family in the Christmas mode. All ended in a roadside wreck with our friend on life support.

These are physical accidents but during the year many fell casualty to emotional head-ons and are still struggling to put themselves back on the road. Some were hurt by our words, our failure to be honest, our inattention, our crude remarks, our snides and basically, our lack of love.

This Christmas may we all seek to give a present of self-restraint. Let us not be the sources of pain, derision, depression and stress. May each person we come across be glad that they did. May we put halters on our tongues. Brakes on our emotions and freeze our impulsive actions.

This Christmas may we all be honest and true first to ourselves then the rest. I feel so much derision at the levels of disloyalty that are plumbing the depths of the earth. So many children would not be being raised by single parents if we were all honest to ourselves. So many fathers would not be struggling to bond with their children if all people stood in the principle of truth and fidelity. So many people would not be dying if we were honest to each other.

This Christmas, as is within your means, please strive to be at peace, to be in love, to be faithful, to be truthful and to be the best. After all isn’t it the reason why Christ came to be born in a manger?

Merry Christmas everyone, be safe and protect those that you love.

I love you all and I will fight in your corner till we win all our battles


1 V23

Behold, a virgin shall be with child, and shall bring forth a son, and they shall call his name Emmanuel, which being interpreted is, God with us.


When shadows come calling

The past week has been one that has seen a lot of my friends and I face shadows. One painful thing about shadows is that they bring paleness. Paleness bears the rancor of emptiness and dearth. Shadows block the sun and leave you shivering and cold. Shadows leave you wondering whether you are that bad to deserve the dish served onto your lap.

Some shadows come because you refuse to be swayed. People will fight you for telling them they are wrong. People will fight you for your refusing to entrust your assets to their care because in the past they have proven that they are not good stewards. But still they will bring shadows of backbiting because you won’t bend. They will cite your past mistakes; invoke the ghosts of the past just because you do not want to dance to their tune.

Some shadows are just always lurking, keeping tabs on you like the best spy agency. A moment of happiness or breakthrough on your part is met with blistering farce and hatred. The past re-visits you even in your sleep and all you do is twist and turn.

And there is this shadow that brings me so much pain – The shadow of telling the truth about where you have been. Wow!! I thought coming out into the open will make things easy. My philosophy tells me that there is nothing better than the truth. The premise being if you tell the truth it will always be the truth and you will never have to scratch your head to remember what you said because the truth never changes. Telling the truth brought back the shadows into my life. The pain, the years in the wilderness, the losses, strained relationships and the irreversible mark left in me suddenly came flooding back. Just because I laid my chest bare and told the truth.

That  is one shadow I do not understand. It is painful beyond amputation; you have this imp irritatingly buzzing near your face asking if your telling the truth did you any good? Then the past unrolls – the imp mocks you , dares you to deny God and perish, tells you your straight walk has brought you bent dividends, points out those that overtake on the left who seem to be all sunshine when you are all gloom.

But I aint giving up this fight. Like a bad dream I will come out of it. Like a recurrent nightmare I will fight it off. Shadows are not my portion. Shadows are just commas in my life sentence and I will not pause or linger on them because they will blot and become a full stop. I am not scared of my past because it is my past , it bears my pain , mistakes , permanent scars , achievements , benchmarks and all. I will not let the shadows block my sight. After all, they are nothing but shadows created by light reflecting against me!!

And I know that the sun will rise tomorrow and I will still seek to defy the shadows by walking in the light.

I do not have any other option.

Semper fidelis

Semper fidelis

From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Semper Fidelis is Latin for “Always Faithful”. Well known in the United States as the motto of the U.S. Marine Corps (and often shortened to Semper Fi in Marine contexts),

For every moment that you will want to throw in the towel, I beg that you pause for a moment and ask yourself this – what if my next lunge, step, thrust, jump etc will land me on dry ground? We have been told so many times that the darkest hour is just before dawn. Sounds so simple, sounds like you just close your eyes between 0300hrs and 0445hrs and all will be bliss when you open your sleep glazed eyes. Nothing could be further than the truth than this statement.

No joy comes without any sweat. Pleasure is attained after pain and labor (ask mothers, midwives and a few men who have been there when their children were born). All attainment is a result of effort. Failure to attain is a result of a shortfall in effort application or misdirected effort. But in my life I have discovered that something more than effort is need to carry yourself through. It is something that I found in the motto for the U. S. Marine Corps. Shortened to “Semper  fi”, this is a pledge to death, avowing a lifelong loyalty that will not be distracted by any means. It is a pledge of commitment and availability beyond the call of duty. It is the pledge of life time commitment. Semper fidelis – always faithful.

Now, in a man’s walk in the path of life there are so many winds that buffet themselves against his effort to move forward. I have seen a picture of a lone man caught by an opposing sand storm in the desert. Sand blasted , stung by the grain sands all over the face to the extent of small webbed bruises , all that kept the man going forward was the understanding that if he stopped he wouldn’t be able to start again and that if he stopped he would be toppled over and be buried by the howling sands within minutes. The pledge to keep going saved him. He kept faith in his body to have the ability to churn out more energy to defy the sand storms till he reached and oasis protected by palm grooves.

No feat can be achieved without one attaining fidelity with self. Truth starts with you being true to your self. Leadership starts with the way you conduct and manage your personal affairs. The path to real attainment starts with being honest to you. How many of us walk the earth today being unfaithful to our bodies? By enjoining yourself in an illicit liaison with another person you are simply defiling yourself and breaking the semper fi with your mind, body, soul and spirit. Before we talk of spouses, children, boyfriends, and girlfriends who become evident casualties I want to point out that the first casualty is you.

As we walk this life there is a need to be fully in touch with our selves. A person who knows who they are , what they stand for and what they want will rarely fall into scandal  and when done in, such  a person in touch with their being invokes the semper fi to rally all that is them to arise and redeem their being.

Today in a month where we commemorate and pledge to work hard to defeat the scourge of AIDS. In a month where we remember the silent women who will be receiving the seed of death from their spouses from the Diaspora. In a month where more men will receive more than love because of their suddenly fat wallets. In a month where innocent souls are going to be conceived in death laced orgasms, I ask that you be true to yourself. Walk the walk of fidelity, if defeated, walk the path of protection and when you recover re -connect with your sempe fi and be faithful first to yourself.

Remember being always faithful to your body includes a pledge to protect it from all vile and hurt. Here is to all the women who will brave the wrath   of their errant spouses to ask them to go for an HIV test or to use condoms. Here is to youths that will abstain and visit New Start before seeing the Marriage Officer. Here is to men who will disclose their statuses and not continue flooding the wombs of their innocent spouses with poisoned seed. Here is to women who will tell the truth about their life instead of taking innocent men into their bodies only to infuse them with poisonous intra Venus fluids.

Here is to a people that will stand and speak a Semper fidelis to themselves first before they walk out to face the world.

Semper fidelis.

Semper fi.

Always faithful.