Age old wisdom 2

So, a few weeks ago I turned older and wrote a few nuggets about what life has taught me https://phindelamuses.com/2019/03/23/age-old-wisdom/ and then the pressures took over. At my age I have learnt not to rush as my lessons from rush burns of the past still reflect on my life skin up to today.

As I walk this journey and I continue clocking the mileage I can only try to hand out what I think will help out someone not suffer the burns and stubbed toes I encountered. So, the age old wisdom continues:

Speed is not progress

I learnt this too late. I have learnt that speeding to life’s decisions doesn’t not always lead to the desired destination. In actual effect, I have learnt that unwise speed is a waste of energy.

In my early days as a driver I used to overtake vehicles in robot controlled intersections only to be stopped by a red light and only to have the overtaken vehicles sidle next to me at the stop with the drivers wearing smug smiles. I never learnt the lesson then.

Now that I am old I realize I wasted adrenaline, burnt more fuel , risked accidents and wasted rubber but achieved no advantage. I realize now, that rushed decisions are akin to racing between robot controlled intersections. You leave nobody behind.

Stretching hands rarely cramp

When we were young we found it difficult to share our food portions with visitors who would have arrived unannounced. But my mother would have none of it. Whatever was on the plate was meant to be part taken by all in the house irrespective of the number of the unscheduled guests. It always miffed us but no one could dare challenge our mother. https://phindelamuses.com/2011/05/08/to-our-mother/

It is only now that I have grown that I realize that the exercise in selflessness was a drive to a better world. She was teaching us to exorcise selfishness in exchange for selflessness.

I have since learnt in this life that when we help others achieve their dreams we help ourselves because arms that always stretch out rarely cramp.

Breath

I have learnt to breath. Where I would have verbally exhaled I now pause and calculate the benefits of what I want to say. Many a times I find myself saying it is ok, do not worry or let it slide.

There are battles that silence wins better than verbally tussling. There are wars that one would rather walk away from to avoid unnecessary emotional harm. Breathing under attack is akin to that time when one surfaces from under water to take in precious oxygen. Life saving.

Stopping to breath has made me realize missed things, it has made me hear unsaid things and made me know things that would have been missed in heated exchanges. Learning to breath in lieu of throwing fists has been educative to me.

Slow processor

I have always joked and pleaded that people bear with me as I have a slow processor. It is a half truth. All I would be trying to do is double processs what would be before me at a sedate pace and this life has taught me that sleeping over decisions and answers tends to yield more reasoned and sober outcomes than emotional knee jerk responses.

“He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty, he who rules his [own] spirit than he who takes a city.”

‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭16:32‬ ‭AMPC‬‬

https://www.bible.com/8/pro.16.32.ampc

As I walk this journey I learn new things everyday and I pray the lessons help me to walk the remaining mileage with more wisdom, smiles and stretched hands.

To be continued…

#iamphindelasson

#brokenbutnotafraid

25 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. thomas
    Apr 04, 2019 @ 22:43:37

    mature entry!

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  2. ruemac
    Apr 04, 2019 @ 23:18:38

    Wise words……

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  3. derek maps
    Apr 05, 2019 @ 05:27:29

    Ohhh….. Did I know the author to be so sharp?

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  4. Lucky J. Matyora
    Apr 05, 2019 @ 09:23:16

    Over the years you have greatly matured and become an inspirational leader. Keep on inspiring.
    A very good 📖 read.

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  5. Ludo Ndlovu
    Apr 05, 2019 @ 09:38:24

    Wise words

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  6. Uhuru
    Apr 05, 2019 @ 11:40:20

    Wise words there.

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  7. Thina Maphosa
    Apr 05, 2019 @ 12:12:43

    Wise words indeed

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  8. Arthur Matthews
    Apr 05, 2019 @ 12:39:46

    TTo be foretold is to be fore armed, once bitten twice shy, friends take heed

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  9. Ziruviguru
    Apr 05, 2019 @ 13:00:29

    ‘There are battles that silence wins better than verbally tussling’. There is nothing to add or remove there. Another great piece son of Phindela!

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  10. godknows nhokwara
    Apr 05, 2019 @ 13:34:43

    We are still learning, you are a good master

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  11. Lucien
    Apr 05, 2019 @ 15:09:47

    Thanks, I read it all throughout but it scares for its truth.

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  12. Mai Bobby
    Apr 05, 2019 @ 15:44:13

    Wise words , indeed. Well said, son.

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  13. Sifiso
    Apr 05, 2019 @ 19:23:47

    Truth be said.. One is never too old to learn. Our everyday life is a non graduating learning institution. Strong lesson learnt there.

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  14. Simba
    Apr 05, 2019 @ 19:46:55

    wena so …u something else

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  15. Rutendo Chingoriyo
    Apr 05, 2019 @ 20:15:41

    Inspiring.

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  16. Nqobizitha
    Apr 05, 2019 @ 22:53:47

    Wisdom at it’s best,l always learn something from your posts which is enriching and share the advice with close ones and they think that l m so intelligent 🤓

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  17. catkai
    Apr 06, 2019 @ 14:11:11

    “Stretching hands rarely cramp”. Love that

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  18. Madubeko
    Apr 06, 2019 @ 20:48:38

    Thanks for remembering me and sharing with me such wisdom

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  19. Mrs Mandaza
    Apr 08, 2019 @ 11:54:06

    Silence wins a lot of battles,coupled with patience and forgiveness.It’s so true elder.Thank you.

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  20. Mlako
    Apr 09, 2019 @ 08:37:40

    speed is not progress.. its what i tell myself everyday,,”slow down Mlako”. .thank you Brazo

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  21. Thabani sibanda
    Apr 22, 2019 @ 17:07:40

    Wow!!!!! powerful, let’s accept this crown of old age with Thanksgiving and joy. I would say the same about myself. Moreso silence is golden it is said . At times i think back and wonder at some decisions we made in the past ngithi kambe Jesu wawukuphi sigaya izbozi. How ever I realise it’s that route that made it to be so strong and made Christ our pillar and stronghold

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  22. Mama
    May 01, 2019 @ 15:33:05

    This is really awesome and incredible son. Stay blessed.

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